Happy Black Friday!! The most crazy, consumer driven day of the year!
In the wake of an advertising crazed Christmas season, how can we as parents help our kids view stuff in the right perspective?
Despite our intention as parents to teach our children that spiritual and mental things are more important then the many cool toys, clothes, and possessions around us, we live in a society that depends on consumerism. How can we help help our children to now be taken in by materialism?
In the last article, we talked about Step 1: To Limit.
This article deals with Step 2: To Help them deal with the materialist temptations that are sure to come.
1. Help them learn to think about things in a certain way
-Help them view what they have as A LOT
-Talk about how much they have in a positive way
“Wow, we have a whole BOX of toys! We are so blessed!”
“You have TWO dolls! How special to have so much!”
When they ask for the toy at the store, help them to realize that:
1. They don’t need it
2. If they get it, they will not be able to use what they already have.
Things that work great to say to my kids:
“If you get this, we need to get rid of some toys at home. Do you want to get rid of some of your toys?”
“If you get this, you won’t be able to play with the toys you have. That would be sad!”
“It would not be responsible to get this toy when we have so much at home!”
“You already have 3 cars & you only have 2 hands! How would you carry this?”
The war continues, but I can honestly say that I think my kids are getting a better grasp of reality of need and want then I did.
Of course I do just say “no,” to some things like any parent and other times I allow them to purchase the item with their own chore money.
However, my bigger goal (like any parent) is help them get a bigger view of ‘stuff.’ In the end, I want them to realize that ‘stuff’ does not make them happy, and that they can find contentment in the many blessings (spiritual and physical) that God has already given them.
In the coming month, we’ll be focusing more on a meaningful Christmas season that helps our children focus on Christ, family, and giving.
What things work to help your kids battle materialism and gain a bigger perspective on ‘stuff?’