I so often learn lessons from watching my kids.
Tonight on the way home from a trip recently, I gave them each a pile of Doritos chips. (semi-rare treat.) The 4 year old dropped 4 small pieces on the ground by accident.
Rather then enjoy the big pile of chips next to him, he worried, whined and completely focused in on the 4 little pieces on he ground.
We were determined to not pull over for his ‘crisis’ so he finally just sat miserably until our next stop about 45 minutes later. He refused to acknowledge the pile of treats beside him and within reach because of his all-consuming concern with the out-of-reach bits below him.
It seemed a little dumb, but I found it convicting.
How often am I all-too-similar to this?
Focusing on the ‘little pieces.’
As moms, we cave in to focusing on whatever chips pieces are just beyond our reach – 5 star meals, perfect houses, spotless children, and developmentally above the average kids.
We miss the blessings we have. God has given us each SO MANY blessings. His son to die for us, His word, His Spirit, our abilities, our children, our families.
We don’t all have the same blessings. My children are about average in intelligence. It used to drive me crazy that sometimes they were ‘a month behind’ developmental charts.
But in reality, I was really feeding my pride. I didn’t want to be considered a bad mom because I hadn’t pushed my kids enough. I focused on those pieces rather then being thankful for the abilities and strengths they did have.
The fact is, God has given my children certain abilities and me certain abilities.
I can sing. I have a rather good voice (or at least parents who dished out 4 years of voice lessons for me!) I can fill my home with worthwhile songs and hymns. I can use the ‘chips’ God has given me and be thankful rather then lament that I am not as naturally organized as the next woman.
I can even view these areas of weakness in a bigger perspective. I can be thankful for this “chip” of weakness i organizing – to help me depend on God. I’ve found that if I pray, I can keep better control. God’s used my weakness to help me draw closer to Him.
Similarly, I can look at my kids’ strengths and be thankful for the ‘chips.’ My son is 100% person. He never ever does anything half way. I can use that and help him to learn to do right, kind, brave things in his 100% fashion rather then lament that he is not as laid-back and ‘easy’ as his little play mates. These are the ‘chips’ God has given us.
So, that is the lesson I was reminded of today from a pile of Doritos.